I agreed to meet some friends at the beach at a specific time to have a surf session with them, it was a married couple, we planned to surf SS at 8 on a Sunday morning. I arrived a few minutes before 8 and carried my gear down to the beach figuring that they would be there shortly. Around 8:30 I figured perhaps they had car trouble or something like that so I walked back to the parking lot to give them a call on their cell phone. But before I could call them they pulled into the parking lot. Now being the enthusiastic kook that I am, I was stoked about getting into the water and catching that 1st wave, so I offered to help them carry there gear. Since they had their son with them, lets just call the son, the V-man I assumed that Mom would not mind me carrying her board so she could keep a closer eye on her son. It was her who was offended not I, by her rejection of me carrying her board, though her husband was more then willing to allow me to carry his board when I offered to carry his
Sure I offer to her first, that is the way I was raised, just like offering to get the door for a woman or offering her my chair on a crowded bus or train. What irritates me is that women automatically assume if a man does something nice, he only is doing it because he wants to get into her pants. Granted NMM is a good looking woman and has a lot of great traits that I enjoy, but I also consider her husband a pretty good friend too. I sure hope he is not thinking the same way NMM is. I carried his board down to the beach because I wanted to get into the water, and I was not looking to get into his either
As for respect for women surfers verses respect for male surfers, if you can surf, then it has nothing to do about being male or female, it's about your skills.
NMM, I was not offended by your refusal to allow me to carry your board though I am slightly offended that you would think I had underlying intentions. While I do like you a lot, I value our friendship just a tad bit more then that.. Christ
PS I edited the word BANG and replaced with get into her/his pants so as not to offend Wilbur. I used the term get into her/his pants because it was used by NMM and I doubt Wilbur can find this an offensive term since it was a term used by her first not me