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Re: When a parent starts the dying process

Postby bluesilver » Mon May 06, 2019 2:37 pm

So The cancer was supposedly cured. They are still running tests every few weeks. But he's OK for now, thanks for the thoughts. He has been sick a lot since then though, non stop.
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Re: When a parent starts the dying process

Postby Tex » Tue May 07, 2019 7:19 am

That is great news Blue!!! Hell of a roller coaster ride eh?
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Re: When a parent starts the dying process

Postby bluesilver » Wed May 08, 2019 8:41 am

Yeah it's not anything people should have to go through, especially kids
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Re: When a parent starts the dying process

Postby Tex » Mon Jul 29, 2019 9:31 pm

I think my dad might have a girlfriend....trying to figure out if it is too soon.
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Re: When a parent starts the dying process

Postby INTERN » Thu Aug 08, 2019 12:23 pm

How would that make you feel if he did Tex?

My Dad passed away about 3 years ago, my partner always asks if it would be weird if my Mom started dating again. I say no, but I think it would definitely be weird.
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Re: When a parent starts the dying process

Postby Tex » Mon Aug 12, 2019 9:20 am

I am actually fine with it. Gave it a lot of thought and you know, it simply cannot be controlled. My dad found someone he likes hanging out with. My mom has passed and I am sure she would just want him to be happy. I am firmly now in the camp of, good for you pops, be in the moment, live life to the fullest.
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Re: When a parent starts the dying process

Postby Tex » Mon Aug 12, 2019 9:22 am

Your pretty young to lose your pops at that age Intern, Im really sorry for your loss. My brother passed away when he was only 35 from cancer....too damn young for that.
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Re: When a parent starts the dying process

Postby INTERN » Tue Aug 13, 2019 10:59 am

35 is way to young, at least my dad was 60.

It seems like such a weird blur at this time. It came at a time when I was diving headfirst into existential philosophy, Ram Dass, "spirituality"... and I feel like that helped me weather a lot of it and be a support for my mother and brother. I feel super open about talking about it, but they are grieving much harder (4 years past), and I can't tell if I am ok or things might hit later.
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Re: When a parent starts the dying process

Postby Tex » Tue Aug 13, 2019 12:39 pm

Ram Dass is a pretty bad @ss dude, I actually been reading some books about his Guru over the past year. Yeah, we are all in different stages of processing my mom's death. We were lucky to have her pass in the family home and we were all there when she took her last breath. My mom, dad and brother/sister-in-law all moved up to Orcas Island in the San Juans so it was a peaceful place to birth her soul to the next life.
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Re: When a parent starts the dying process

Postby Spider » Wed Sep 04, 2019 4:25 pm

just read a cool article about ram dass:
https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/201 ... e=Homepage
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Re: When a parent starts the dying process

Postby Tex » Wed Sep 11, 2019 11:20 am

Thanks for posting Spider....very cool article. Anybody here doing LSD to expand spiritual awareness?
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Re: When a parent starts the dying process

Postby INTERN » Thu Sep 12, 2019 8:45 am

Cool article. The part in Be Here Now, when Richard Alpert is on acid and just watching his plane and car dissolve in front of him is one of my favorite Ram Dass stories.

I used what I believe was LSD, might have been a Shulgin analog, a couple times around when my Dad was dying. I had one trip that was quite difficult and I struggled a bit with it,then gave in to it and felt ok, the next morning everything was fine and felt good....I took that as some kind of dip into what dying might be like.
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Re: When a parent starts the dying process

Postby Tex » Fri Sep 13, 2019 5:23 pm

Whoah....sounds a bit heavy. I have had several death dreams, where I actually die. Surreal and has really eased my fear of dying.....speaking as an older guy that might have a couple decades left.
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